Newly Arrived Couple Looking For Doctor Who Doesn't Always Have To Be Right
Howard and Millie Sprague are in the market for a doctor and mechanic. They recently moved to Raleigh and need to find some professionals for services for their family. Having no history in this area, Millie reached out to the locals in a Facebook group…
“Hey guys! New to the area. Looking for recommendations for family doctor, mechanic, dentist, accountant, and church. Anything else would be great. The main thing is, we want these professionals to be open to being wrong. Here’s the thing… In our last town we went to a church where the preacher always had to be right. That really bummed us out. Whenever he would do a teaching from the Bible and someone would push back that maybe there are other ways to believe, he would always argue. He could never admit that maybe he was wrong about certain things. He always felt like he had to be right. This burned us out. So as we fill the needs for professionals in our lives, we want to engage those who don’t have to be right. In fact, it is a plus if they admit they could be wrong even when they are right. That is huge. Thank in advance.”
We contacted the Spragues to get a better perspective. “Yeah, we are just tired of people who know things we don’t acting like they are smarter than us. That is a turn-off,” explains Howard. “I was raised to believe that everyone’s opinion is equally valuable. When a preacher, or doctor, or mechanic tells you it is a certain way, and they aren’t willing to listen to alternate conclusions, that may or may not be valid, well… that is off-putting.”
Millie added, “There was this one time where we had a mechanic. He told us we had to make sure there was oil in the car or else it would not run. We offered a different narrative that maybe there were other ways of maintaining the engine. Just because our parents did it a certain way doesn’t mean we have to do it that way, right? He sort of got mad and told us to do whatever we wanted. We refused his offer to top off our oil. A few weeks later we had the car towed because something was wrong with the engine. It was unpleasant. But it was almost worth it. We are just tired of people who always think they have to be right. Don’t they understand that it drives people away?”
So far the Spragues have not found a family doctor, mechanic, or dentist. But they do have a wonderful new yoga instructor, and also plenty of new social media friends who will affirm all of their counter-intelligent ideas.