Calvinist Groom Replaces Vows With Promise That He Will Fail Wife Every Day In Word Thought And Deed
One of the time honored traditions of a marriage ceremony is the point where each party vows to remain faithful to each other for the remainder of their lives. Frankly, many do not, but it is still the stated goal, even among those who do not call themselves Christian. Or it used to be.
Steve Mashburn is breaking the mold. When he recently wed his lovely bride Denise, he switched up the vows. "It isn’t that I don’t want to always be faithful to her. But I know it is impossible. I’m no fool. I grew up Southern Baptist. Every week I learned that we all sin every day in word , thought, and deed. Look, if I can’t remain faithful to God every day, there ain’t no way I can be faithful to Denise every day. So I just incorporated that reality into my vows. I promised to fail her every day since I obviously fail God every day.”
For her part, Denise is not exactly excited about the prospect of her many being unfaithful to her every day, but appreciates his honesty. “He is being transparent. I appreciate that. I love him. And I know he is only human. So his flesh is going to win. He isn’t perfect. If God can live with his daily sins, surely I can. After all, he can’t help it now, can he?”
The newlyweds are trying to make the best of things, and looking at the positives. “If forgiveness helps make a marriage strong, we should have a marriage like Samson,” says Steve. Denise grimaces and adds, “Yeah… I just have to make room for the daily Delilahs.”
Mashburn plans to end every night with a request of his wife to forgive him of his daily sins and wherever he has fallen short.